Powerful You! Women's Network

Why do we persist in clinging to people that are clearly headed from nowhere to nothing, with no motivation, concern or direction? Bound in jealousy, bitterness, selfishness, strife and defeat. Imprisoned in their own negative mindset. These same people are often cloaked in jealousy while smiling. All the while, you are the target of what they really hold inside. We need to wise up.

YOUR purpose in God is just that...YOUR PURPOSE. You cannot take anyone else along on the ride that was meant for you. We need to stop allowing the weight of others to hold us down. We are connected spiritually to this universe by design. In order to flow, we must flow in what we are designed to do. While riding the flow of the river stop picking up driftwood along the way. Selah.

When was the last time you thought about where one of your habits really comes from? Last month I decided that I wanted to pay attention to my automatic  responses in my daily routines. I discovered that one of the many simple decisions I make on a daily basis is a result of my listening to a good friend I admire very much. She is a business success, so why should I not listen to her when she advised me when traveling across town to always take the freeway, unless there is an accident. That one comment has stayed with me for the last 8 years.  Her view is that driving the freeways of Los Angeles is faster than taking side streets because getting all green lights just does not happen. So last week I had the opportunity to choose differently.  I was not in a hurry and discovered I really enjoyed the stop and go at streetlights because it gave me an opportunity to see the landscaping of residential homes, check out the businesses, and identify restaurants I may want to visit in the future.  I will also confess, people watching is indeed fun for me. So why did I go against my preference to begin with?

As children we have others make decisions for us, our parents, teachers, other adults…but then we grow up and we still let others or circumstances make decision for us. We look up to our parents, a spouse, a boss, or friends to help us make important decisions. The question becomes how much influence is from others vs. our own genuine self desires? So often we don’t’ think about beliefs and the powerful influence they have on us. How how best to drive on the freeway may not be a big deal, but what about a college degree you did not really care for, or the job you are in, or even the relationship you are in?

Getting advice, processing and incorporating into what we want out of life is of course the ideal situation. But most of us are not conscious of the many things that affect our lives, or the choices we make under the control of our beliefs. We are stuck in habits, beliefs, and customs. For example, people spend more time worrying than laughing and this worrying is a destructive habit.

Beliefs are the thoughts that we hold, most often without question, about ourselves and the world at large. What we encounter in the outer world on a daily basis is but a reflection of our inner reality: we become what we think about; therefore, when we change our thinking, we can and will inevitably change our lives. But is it our personal preference?

In order to empower our lives, it is imperative that we understand our personal and collective beliefs. Beliefs are the programs from which we have built our life experience. We are who we are, and we are where we are because of what we believe about ourselves; no matter what we are experiencing, our beliefs form the underlying foundation to create these experiences.

Beliefs are about power, our power to create…

Stay tuned to the Part 2 of the Series of Belief Systems

Who were you meant to be? 

The process of knowing your place in the world begins by sifting through untruths and letting go of who you are not.  It’s the first step to healing and the portal to emotional and spiritual expansion. 

Ask Yourself: What’s the one thing that you believe about yourself that may be holding you back? Perhaps they’re stories you were told, some passed down generationally. They may be physical, emotional or spiritual barriers.

That “thing” whatever it may be, is not your truth. It’s a story you’ve told yourself over and over again, it became a part of you. In order to move forward…the act of emotional untethering is necessary.

A Simple Clearing: In a brief statement, write down that belief and say silently, “I release all negative thoughts that do not serve me. They do not belong to me and never have”. Tear it up, burn it, relinquish attachment.  Be gentle with yourself, this process takes time.

In yoga, one of my favorite poses is at the end of practice. It’s called corpse pose. It allows for a time of surrender and for silence of the mind. Meditation is the gateway to self visualization, self actualization and is used as a powerful tool.

A Guided Meditation: Find a favorite space that you can access daily. This will be your sacred dwelling, a place where you’ll feel at peace for 5 to 15 minutes, daily. This space is where the mind will be quietly protected from the outside world.  It could be on a porch, your bedroom, or a corner of your living room; a place to lay or sit quietly, free from noise or distractions. 

Close Your Eyes: Take a deep breath slowly in, then slowly out, repeat this naturally. Let thoughts of the day float effortlessly away. You may fall asleep, or experience a state of lucidity. This is your time. You’ll emerge inspired, energized and nurtured. 

If someone were to ask what your vision is for yourself or others, what would it be? To be clear, this does not involve the thinking mind. Part of the practice of meditation is tapping into the higher mind; the mind void of preconceptions + limiting thoughts. 

A Self Visualization Tool: Visualize and focus on what you’ve seen in your mind’s eye through meditation + reflection. Perhaps you desire more peace, ease and fluidity in your day. Or maybe, the next great invention or business idea is brought to light. Even the simple wish of healing or prosperity for yourself or a friend can be given flight. The simple act of self visualization takes practice, focus and repetition.  It takes the quietness of the mind and release of diversion. Over time, it becomes effortless.

My hope is that this offering, will become part of your daily practice, will resonate with you and allow you a sense of purpose, clarity + renewal.