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By Yvonne Perry

Empaths are loving, caring, kind people who want to help others. They are often found doing volunteer work and may serve others through emotionally-demanding careers as childcare givers, medical professionals, hospice workers, midwives, and such. Most empaths came in with a mission to heal people, animals, plants, and the planet. As healers, many have taken on so much external energy that they spend most of their time trying to clear unwanted energy and recuperate from the last episode that "blew their doors off."

Here are a few characteristics of empaths who have not learned to filter out other people's emotions or manage their own energy:

• You constantly feel overwhelmed with emotions and you may cry a lot, feel sad, angry, or depressed for no good reason. You may be tempted to think you are crazy for having random mood swings and bouts of unexplained fatigue. If you are a woman, it's like having PMS all the time! Unrestrained empathy can cause a person to manifest symptoms similar to bipolar (manic-depressive) disorder.
• You drop by the store feeling great, but once you get in a crowd you start feeling down, angry, sad, or overwhelmed. You feel you must be coming down with something so you decide to go home and rest.
• If you've found that you can't be in public without becoming overwhelmed you may start to live the life of a hermit. But, even at home, you get depressed when you watch the news and you cry while watching a movie. You feel horrible when a commercial for the Humane Society shows animals that need a home. You may rescue more animals than you can possibly care for.
• You feel sorry for people no matter who they are or what they have done. You feel the need to stop and help anyone in your path. You can't pass by a homeless person without giving him money-even if you don't have it to spare.
• Many empaths are overweight. When they absorb stressful emotions, it can trigger panic attacks, depression as well as food, sex, and drug binges. Some may overeat to cope with emotional stress or use their body weight as a shield or buffer. In Chapter 9 of Yvonne Perry's book, she shows how to use light as protection.
• Most empaths have the ability to physically and emotionally heal others by drawing the pain or ailment out of the sick person and into their own bodies. For obvious reasons, this is not recommended unless you know how to keep from becoming ill in the process.
• From chest pains and stomach cramps to migraines and fever, you manifest symptoms without contracting an actual illness. Later, you learn that your "ailment" coincided with the onset of a friend or family member's illness.
• No one can lie to you because you can see through their facade and know what they really mean. You may even know why they lied.
• People-even strangers-open up and start volunteering their personal information. You may be sitting in the waiting room minding your own business and waiting your turn when the person next to you starts sharing all kinds of personal information. You didn't ask them to and they never considered that you might not want to hear about their drama. People may feel better after speaking with you, but you end up feeling worse because they have transferred their emotional pain to you.
• Some empaths don't do well with intimate relationships. Constantly taking on their partner's pain and emotions, they may easily get their feelings hurt, desire to spend time alone rather than with the partner, feel vulnerable when having sex, and feel that they have to continually retrieve their own energy when it gets jumbled with that of their partner. They may be so afraid of becoming engulfed by another person that they close up emotionally just to survive.
• The ill, the suffering, and those with weak boundaries are drawn to the unconditional understanding and compassion an empath emits without even being aware of it. Until you learn how to shut out the energy of others, you may have a pretty miserable existence in which you feel like you have to be entirely alone in order to survive.

It's easy to see why being an empath is often very draining. No wonder that over time, some folks shut down their empathic ability. And, with that, they also shut down a vital part of their divine guidance system. Learn how to manage the amount of info-energy you receive and hear more of what is really important.

I believe many people will find my book helpful. Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You was written for empaths. See wwwwhosestuffisthis.com for book details.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Yvonne Perry is the author of Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You--a resource for intuitive people who have been unknowingly carrying energetic burdens that belong to someone else. Visit http://whosestuffisthis.com for resources to help you manage energy overload.

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By Diane Helbig

So many people are starting businesses these days. In addition, there are many small business owners who have been confronted with the necessity to sell for the first time. This can seem daunting to the sales novice. However, it doesn't have to be. There really are some basic steps to growing a client base and therefore, a successful business.

Step 1: Value Definition 
The first step of successful sales is understanding the value your product or service brings to the client. It isn't so much what you WANT the value to be. It is more about how the prospect and client perceive the value.

This is a critical step. I submit that if you don't get this down cold you will struggle with sales. People don't like to be sold but they do like to buy. They like to buy the things THEY believe they need. You have to understand their perspective so you can speak to it. Then you will be heard.

Step 2: Messaging 
So now that you understand the value from the client's point of view it's time to craft your message around that value. This is where you actually speak to what matters to the prospect. Remember that they need to hear you and they will hear you when you are speaking directly to them.

Your messaging should be short as well; the more concise the more believable. Think about it. Have you ever heard someone talk about their product or service and they go on for so long that you lose track of what they are saying? Or you are left with the feeling that even they don't believe what they are saying? Exactly! So, keep it concise and simple.

Step 3: Target Market 
Now you understand the value and you've been able to craft a compelling message. Guess what? Now you know who your target market is! Hurray! You can't be all things to all people and you shouldn't want to be. When you can target a specific market you will be able to focus and concentrate on them. You will also be able to monitor your success so you can easily identify what is working, and what isn't.

This is not to say that you can't have more than one target. You can. My suggestion is that you start with one. Make it easier on yourself. You want to be able to focus and create a plan. It is easiest when you have one target you are going after. Once you have penetrated that market successfully you can add in another one.

Steps - one at a time. That's what works.

Step 4: Listen and Respond 
So this is a place where many people get tripped up. They get the meeting with the prospect and think they are supposed to talk - and talk, and talk! Nothing could be further from the truth. Even if the prospect says 'So, tell me about your company (or product or service).' Your job at the prospect meeting is to ask enough questions so you gather a solid idea of what the prospect wants or needs. You also want to find out how the company operates.

Once you have discovered this information you are in the position to do two things. 1) realize whether you have a solution for them. You may not have what they need. Don't try to fit a round peg in a square hole! If you can't help them, tell them so. You can even refer them to someone who can. But don't try to be the solution they need when you really aren't. This is where your value statement comes in big time. Refer to it.

2) Respond to what they said. If you determine that you do have a solution that fits their need, create a proposal that speaks directly to what they told you. Don't try to sell them what you want to sell them. Sell them what they need. When you propose a solution based on what they told you, you are letting them know that you heard them. Priceless!

Step 5: Follow Through 
This may not seem like a part of the sales process but boy is it! You won't be successful if you are great at getting the sale but can't deliver. Sales is about the whole process - including continuing to develop the client relationship. So there are really two parts of follow through. The first is delivering on what you sold to the prospect (now client). There's a saying 'under-promise and over-deliver.' This is one of the keys to building a truly successful business. Exceed your client's expectations. And, once you've delivered, check in with the client to be sure they are happy. It doesn't take a lot of time but can speak volumes about your dedication to providing an outstanding experience.

The other part is continuing to develop the client relationship. What happens many times is this - we make a sale and then move on to the next prospect. We forget to continue the relationship process with the current client. Not the best situation! You want to be sure you are building the relationships with your current clients so you can get all the business there is to get from them. In addition, if you aren't working on your relationship with them you run the risk that they will leave you. They'll leave for the person who IS building a relationship with them. In a competitive environment your competition is calling on your clients. If you aren't communicating with them you won't know about this. In addition, you won't have done anything to build some sort of loyalty. In essence you will be telling your client that they just aren't that important. Is that really the message you wish to send? I didn't think so!

You can see that the steps to successful selling aren't difficult. They are simple and necessary. Once implemented and practiced on a regular basis, they will serve your business well on a consistent basis.
So don't complicate the process - and don't avoid it! Embrace it and you will find yourself in a thriving, successful business.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Diane Helbig is a Professional Coach, and the president of Seize This Day Coaching. She works one-on-one and in groups with small business owners, entrepreneurs, and salespeople to help them create successful business development strategies. As a team, they embrace the possibilities. Diane is the author of Lemonade Stand Selling - a straightforward, common sense guide to sales for small business, and a contributing author to Chicken Soup for the Power Moms Soul. Diane is a member of the expert's panel of Top Sales World and a contributing editor for COSE Mindspring, a resource website for small businesses. Diane is also the host of Accelerate Your Business Growth Radio Show on BlogTalkRadio. Diane's website is http://www.seizethisdaycoaching.com and you can find her book at http://www.lemonadestandselling.com.